The Kids Are Gone - So What Next?

Having a purpose in life helps you to have more self-worth. For years you have been raising a family. That has been most of your focus and purpose along with working and being in a relationship. Now that the kids have left home you have more free time and one of the main areas of purpose has gone.

Why is purpose important?

Having a sense of purpose helps to keep you going. It gives you something to focus on, a reason for getting out of bed in the morning.

How to find your purpose:

Many have no idea what their sense of purpose is. After spending so long doing for others: running around car-pooling; cooking; working and falling exhausted into bed, there hasn’t been any time to even think about a purpose! But now that the kids have gone you may feel a void in your life – a gap that you want to fill. Discovering what your life’s purpose is key to living a fulfilled life.

One of the quickest and easiest ways to discover your life’s purpose is to look at what you can do for others. I don’t mean this in a way that deflates and wears you out, but in a pleasurable, inspiring way, that helps others learn to do something you are good at.

Take five minutes to write down all the things that you can do. For example, can you cook, do accounting work, build things, or organise things? Are you good at establishing businesses, are you creative or artistic, do you play a musical instrument, are you sporty? What is it that you can do and that you enjoy doing. Once you define something, then look at ways that you can help others learn what you know. Share your knowledge; give back, either to an individual or a community.

Share Your Knowledge:

  1. Volunteer your time at an organisation that aligns with your interests
  2. Teach someone the skills you know

By passing on your knowledge, it helps others to grow and it also helps you to build your own self-confidence. It creates purpose in your life and it will help you to discover more about yourself along the way.

If you don’t know where to go to volunteer your time, just look in your local paper or search the Internet for volunteering opportunities. I have been a volunteer victim support counsellor, at writing festivals and Hay House events. I’ve organised women’s fitness groups amongst other things. I am continually teaching my clients skills to self-manage so they do not become reliant on me and are able to lead fulfilling and rewarding lives. Each has been a rewarding and enriching experience.

Step up, step out and go for it!

Amanda Candy


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