3 Steps to Letting Go of Anger
Posted May 19, 2015
One of the best ways to release anger, hurt, fear, resentment, and frustration about something is to write a letter to the person or the situation that has created this feeling. The most effective way to do this is with pen and paper, as it really connects you to the page. However, if you don’t want to do that then type it on a computer; that’s absolutely fine as well.
Find a quiet spot where you won’t be interrupted for a while. Have pens and paper, a glass of water, or cup of tea or coffee (please don’t drink alcohol whilst you’re doing this) and a box of tissues.
Step 1:Think of the person or event and begin writing, write whatever comes into your mind. Don’t hold back anything, but write down exactly what you feel; every word of it. Say whatever it is you have never had the chance to say to that person or about a particular situation. Scream, swear, yell, rant and rave. You may actually be surprisingly calm. There is no right or wrong way to do this. Just keep writing until you have nothing more to write.
Don’t edit or re write the piece or worry about the spelling and grammar; this is purely a release of feelings/emotions/thoughts onto a piece of paper. Write exactly what you’re experiencing.
Step 2: You may find that you need to write more than one letter. If so, do this over a three-day period. Write one letter, then write another the next day, and another each day after that until you have finished and you have said everything there is to say.
Step 3 – Important: This is the most important part to remember and to do. Do not, and I repeat do not, give this letter to the person or anyone else to see. This is for you and for you only. Knowing this will also help you to write the truth of how you are feeling. It will allow you to not hold back on anything.
When you have finished writing this letter, crumple it up into a ball or rip it to shreds and then burn it. Make sure you burn it safely so nothing catches fire. Go outside and let the words and thoughts and feelings and emotions release into the ether, letting go and setting you free.
You can repeat this process as many times as you feel necessary, to as many people as you wish and as often as feels right to you.
Once you have gone through this process you will have released so much emotion. It is such a liberating experience.
If you don’t like writing, this also works with drawing and artwork. Just get paper and paints or clay; whatever you need to express yourself and paint your emotions however they come to you.
This process is not quite the same as journaling, and I explain why in The Amanda Method workbook that you can purchase on my web site.
Get writing now and set yourself free.